I was just sitting here listening to Taylor Swift's songs. I know every word to every song, really, I do. I've been wanting to go to her concert for years so that I could be that annoying girl that sings along to every song. One year, a friend of mine was even selling tickets...Why didn't I buy them? Because they were too expensive of course....a measly 60 dollars each......why do I say measly?
Because...
I used to be the girl that couldn't justify spending 60 dollars on myself to go to a concert which I would have thoroughly enjoyed but that same girl would spend hundreds of dollars to make sure that someone else could go to his favorite artist's concert....
OH THE INJUSTICE.
There are so many times when I have put my desires to the side. I have denied myself opportunities or experiences. However, if those same opportunities or experiences came for someone I loved, I would spend as much as I needed to or do whatever it took for that to happen.
Don't do this to yourself. It just isn't women that do this...men do as well. Don't.
Why? Why would you?
It is a great feeling to make someone you love smile. I know. But what about you?
I'm not saying to never do anything for anyone else but to do things for yourself. I literally do not spend more than 10-15 dollars on a single article of clothing that I purchase for myself unless I'm feeling all splurge-y. When it came to shopping for other people, I would throw my budget out the window. This did not just happen one time, with concert tickets, but multiple times.
It was so easy for me to justify spending an outrageous amount because it would make someone happy but when it came to my happiness, I was willing to settle for a five dollar set of earrings, ten dollar pair of shoes, or an eight dollar bottle of wine even if I saw something that I wanted that was maybe 20 dollars, 50 dollars, heck even 100 dollars. WHY? I realize that this post seems rather materialistic but it's not about the items, or the amount of money you spend on them, it is the thinking behind it. Are other people better than you? Is that why you can justify spending so much on them and not on yourself? No. No one is better than me. I'm not saying that in a cocky way; I'm not better than them either. So, then why is it okay?
Ridiculous. Treat yourself as you would treat other people.
Love yourself first.
Make yourself first. Make your happiness first. Make your dreams come true.
Because...
I used to be the girl that couldn't justify spending 60 dollars on myself to go to a concert which I would have thoroughly enjoyed but that same girl would spend hundreds of dollars to make sure that someone else could go to his favorite artist's concert....
OH THE INJUSTICE.
There are so many times when I have put my desires to the side. I have denied myself opportunities or experiences. However, if those same opportunities or experiences came for someone I loved, I would spend as much as I needed to or do whatever it took for that to happen.
Don't do this to yourself. It just isn't women that do this...men do as well. Don't.
Why? Why would you?
It is a great feeling to make someone you love smile. I know. But what about you?
I'm not saying to never do anything for anyone else but to do things for yourself. I literally do not spend more than 10-15 dollars on a single article of clothing that I purchase for myself unless I'm feeling all splurge-y. When it came to shopping for other people, I would throw my budget out the window. This did not just happen one time, with concert tickets, but multiple times.
It was so easy for me to justify spending an outrageous amount because it would make someone happy but when it came to my happiness, I was willing to settle for a five dollar set of earrings, ten dollar pair of shoes, or an eight dollar bottle of wine even if I saw something that I wanted that was maybe 20 dollars, 50 dollars, heck even 100 dollars. WHY? I realize that this post seems rather materialistic but it's not about the items, or the amount of money you spend on them, it is the thinking behind it. Are other people better than you? Is that why you can justify spending so much on them and not on yourself? No. No one is better than me. I'm not saying that in a cocky way; I'm not better than them either. So, then why is it okay?
Ridiculous. Treat yourself as you would treat other people.
Love yourself first.
Make yourself first. Make your happiness first. Make your dreams come true.
What did you derive from giving? Happiness? Boost to self-esteem? Was your giving truly selfless? I think that you have some more exploring to do. Go deeper. ;)
ReplyDeleteIt's about taking responsibility for your own happiness and doing what it takes to make you happy. No one will care about you as much as they care about themselves so you need to make sure you care about yourself enough to put yourself first.
DeleteIt wasn't truly selfless. It brought me happiness to see someone else happy...so therefore I was indirectly making myself happy. That isn't the problem, though. You can give all you want. Shower love upon loved ones and upon the world, but you should shower it upon yourself as well. This is one thing that I feel I have not done. I feel like sometimes my happiness may be neglected.
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